Imagine if nicki had actual fat girls in her video tho
i am so pro-selfie
you take those selfies.
you take those selfies and look cute as heck
you take those selfies and build your self confidence
because you are cute as heck and you deserve to be confident in yourself because youre an awesome person
if anyone says any differently they are a rotten cabbage who doesnt know anything
now go take more selfies so i can reblog them and talk about how gosh darn cute you are
You have men who just have a preference for fat women and that’s okay. And then you have men AND fat women who enjoy healthy sexual relationships that involve fat fetishes.
I won’t even say a man having a fat fetish is necessarily inherently wrong. It’s how they go about that fetish that is wrong in a lot of cases.
Running blogs where you don’t consider the boundaries of the women you reblog and use them as your personal bbw spankbank - which is the difference between HAVING a fat fetish and out right objectifying and fetishizing just any ol’ fat woman.
It takes us from being fat women you admire to tools and objects for you to get off on. We aren’t seen as full people. Especially when there is so many different views and respects on bbw and these fetishes. These are very controversial things. Where some find it empowering and others are out right offended and hurt by it.
You are stripping us of our voices. Our bodily autonomy even. Our right to preserve sexual boundaries and basic respect all for an orgasm.
The problem about men ‘embracing’ these fetishes is they’re too quick to do what I previously stated. Especially since the objectification of women’s bodies in general are almost a knee jerk reaction that a lot of men have due to conditioned and learned behaviors.
Also men who use their fetish as a selling point to get a fat woman’s attention is fetishizing in itself. If the first thing these men say to a fat woman is something about their bodies they expect us to be gratutious. After all we’r the undesirable fatties and should swoon at these men who are generous enough to give us any attention?
But then you have men who don’t use their attraction for fat as a selling point, or erase the personhood of us fat women by collecting a catalog of us, calling every fat woman they find appealing bbw’s, stripping us of our identities, and GASP…treat us like people.
So they approach us like any other person would approach a person they are interested in. Because we are people. Not a tool to feed their fetish. They approach us like human beings. They talk to us. They show interest in US. Not just as one dimensional walking fat fucktoys.
So while you asked what the difference is between a man who enjoys and likes fat women and a man with a fetish. I think it’s important to also realize that there are healthy couples to take part in fat fetishes. There are even women who consent to being fetishized.
But that is the main thing. Consent. That’s the main difference. That is the biggest blatant difference in any discussion within FA speaking on discourse in fat fetish, bbw blogs, etc. There is pretty much NO consent, and there is NO respect for us. We are being constantly stripped of being treated with any basic sense of humanity..
And that’s the difference between a respectful man that is attracted to fat women and a man that perpetuates rape culture, sexual harassment and the objectification of fat women as just fat bodies to collect.
Hope this helped.